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MGTOW Meaning
The Definition of the acronym MGTOW is Men Going Their Own Way. The MGTOW acronym has become very popular and for many it is a valuable stance, but the question that we're going to look at is: Is MGTOW the right stance for men to take?
Are Men In Trouble?
Are many men today holding off on their pursuit of women for romantic relationships? On the MGTOW subreddit there are over 12,000 members so I know this is a great topic for discussion!
Young men in particular in modern times have leaned towards becoming MGTOW men. Why is this? I believe it's a breakdown in foundational masculinity among young men who are in need of strong direction and insight from wise older men. But as it stands today, many men are foregoing these meaningful relationships with other men and as a result we have the issues before us today.
But I'll discuss this further below. For now, watch this video from CNN below and then let's get into the discussion.
Single Men Are Not Looking For Dates As Much!
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MGTOW Does Not Serve Men Fully
MGTOW is a Natural means to Address A Spiritual Problem
From the very beginning, the enemy, the Devil, has been trying to destroy the sacred relationship between man and woman. From the Garden of Eden, he sought to expose the woman to the elements while removing the man from his God-given position as a builder and protector. MGTOW indirectly and covertly seeks to remove the man from the home, the family, the community, society, the nation, and the world. Not to say that everything is peaches and candy in the family and in every romantic relationship because there are differences between men and women. And a lot of times men and women do butt heads but this does not mean that the man should relinquish his role and leave the family. To do this, like the original sin, would be an effeminate action.
An effeminate action is one where a person particularly a man has his God-given role to do something but instead chooses to do something that is easier. It happens when a man leaves doing what is right to do something that is easy or convenient.
MGTOW Effeminacy should not be in the hearts of men.
But because we don't have certain frameworks to address the issues that happen in relationships many men feel as if there's no other recourse for the plight that they find themselves in!
This is why we NEED men's groups; so the younger men and older men can talk, relate, share, and grow together as men.
- Women are different from men.
- Women are more emotional than men.
- Women are weaker than men.
- Women tend to focus on problem and this focus completely covers every other area of her life until that problem is resolved.
On the other hand, men compartmentalize problems so that a problem doesn't affect every other area, but only affects the area that he has chosen for it to affect up until a given time.
And this is because the man was meant to be the leader; to carry the brunt of the society on his shoulders, while the woman was meant to be a help for the man and to be an understanding mother to her children. This is why she must be emotive, she must let situations bother her to a certain extent because she has to deal with children and when you're dealing with children and particularly young children who can't talk, you have to persist in finding the solution, and to do so the emotions of the child, and your emotions should drive you to being a good mother.
So, the all-consuming emotions are not a defect, they are a part of the design of God for the woman. And this is beautiful when you see it in context.
Women are designed differently.
Now the problem comes in when the woman is taken out of her God-given design and function to operate as a man in romantic relationships, The Church and in society at large.
One of the most destructive movements that we've had in recent times is the feminist movement.
This movement is related to the LGBTQ movement and the plan of the enemy to bring about effeminacy in men. As the saying goes, and as we see by examples throughout Scripture, "where the men go the society goes."
If the men are absent, the society falls.
Because you see, in the grand scheme of things the men are the foundation of the society.
What happens to your house if the foundation is removed?
The house falls apart.
The Men's rights movement and more specifically the MGTOW Movement is a movement that seeks to address some of the grievances among men that they have with regards to women and romantic relationships.
However, in the long run, it does not address anything, because it only propagates the issue and that issue is the lack of male headship and leadership in relationships and family. You cannot get away from it.
Men Need To Stay And Defend Their Woman and Relationships
Because, you see, if the foundation is removed and destroyed the entire structure is removed and destroyed. And so, separating yourself from the issue is a weak posture as is suggested in MGTOW, is not a posture that will bring about sound change.
Let me say it like this: MGTOW philosophy will not bring about the results that men actually want, just as the feminist movement does not give women what they actually desire.
For sound, fundamental change, men have to gain strength and wisdom within groups of godly men and engage with their significant others.
The Bible about what a good man is; one that can be an example as an elder or bishop in 1 Timothy 3.
3 This is a true saying, if a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
5 (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
6 Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.
7 Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.
God Is In The Garden Idea of Manhood and Womanhood
As we read in the preceding Scripture concerning what God deems as a good man to be over His Church, we can see that God intends for the man to:
- Rule his own house well.
- Be sober so he can be vigilant
- Be of good report.
- He also intends for the man to be a leader.
- He intends for a man to be a provider.
- He intends for the man to be a builder as it was given in the Garden of Eden for the man to tend and keep (Genesis 2:13-15).
- He also intends for the man to be a protector or guardian.
To tend means to build or cultivate, and to keep means to protect or guard. The Bible says this in the book of Genesis 2:15.
“And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.”
This is why men have the spatial awareness, mentally. This is also the reason men have muscles and they're stronger than women.
It is the design of God. And anytime we go away from the design of God we reap chaos.
The woman is to primarily be focused on the home because that is her domain so to speak, building relationship with her husband, her children, and making sure that they're okay and they're doing well emotionally and otherwise. The woman has been given a particular function and when she comes outside of that function in the relationship in particular, that's when we have a lot of issues.
Now, the feminist movement has been a movement that has sought to make women equal to men, particularly in role and function. The problem is, men and women are valued in the sight of God, however, their God-given function and roles are explicitly different.
But the feminist movement seeks to bend the roles and functions.
And what do we see as a result of this overt gender-blurring going on the world? CHAOS, that's what.
To address MGTOW men and truly remedy the issues facing them and society in general, we have to get back to a Godly design.
This is going to be difficult, however, because the word of God, not only in this area of relationship with a man and woman, but also in other areas, is contrary to the way that the world wants things to be. But God has His structure and His structure, if it is upheld faithfully, will serve humanity faithfully.
If you've been perusing social media or listening to the murmuring in the bushes of pop culture and the topic of gender equality, you may come away feeling as if everything is going downhill very quickly. And indeed, in some respects, it is.
Godly Relationships Between Men and Women Must Be Fought For Especially by the Men Who Were Chosen To Defend Them
The relationship between men and women must be fought for because without it, society will cease to exist.
Men are to lead in the headship role, protect, and provide according to Scripture. Women are to be submissive to their own husbands. Each woman is to respect her own husband. They are to teach their children the ways of God and the things of God. And they are to teach the young women to honor their own husbands, and in so doing, strengthen the fabric of society. I know this is completely contrary to everything that you've probably read, but this is God's design.
Let me leave you with this one thing:
In the garden when the man and woman were present we don't see a lot of the present-day issues we now see before the devil, the serpent, tempted Eve. We know that she ate, and then gave it to her husband who just blindly accepted it, even though he was not deceived.
Men You Need To Stop The Serpent From Deceiving Your Woman by Teaching Her The Truth of God's Word
If men blindly accept the destruction that the enemy has sought to bring into their families and into their relationships, then the only thing that will result is that which resulted in the beginning - and that's death and destruction.
Men must take a hold of their masculinity and defend their women, children, and society, because this attack is an attack that men were designed for.
It's an attack that men were placed here for.
It's an attack that you cannot leave to your women. It is an attack that you must win through diligently ENGAGING with your one and only wife (as long as she lives), or girlfriend (no sexual activity until marriage) until society turns around.
And women, we need you to LET us lead, and do what God called us to do with the authority and strength that He gave us. Women, your men need you to submit willingly to them as they are to submit willingly to Christ.
This is the design of God.
Embrace it, accept it. Don't think that it will be easy. It won't, but nothing valuable comes the easy way. Men, you are to seek to cause change by engaging because when you leave or you just blindly accept, as Adam did, death and destruction happen in our world.
I leave you with this powerful quote:
“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing,”
